Last weekend, I finally was able to get away and get recharged thanks to a dear friend.  When I first started learning how to ride a motorcycle again, my late husband joined the TW200 community forum to learn more about these bikes.  It was on this forum that we learned about a meet up and ride in Desert Hot Springs five years ago.  It was being hosted by Jeff Bowman, the owner of the Living Water Spa.  It is a privately owned “European style” clothing optional resort with natural hot mineral waters spa.

We were offered a special rate to stay the night after the ride.  At first my late husband was a little bit uncomfortable with the idea.  I suggested that we give it a try since our motto was always to try it once.  I also suggested that if we were too uncomfortable that we could always excuse ourselves and I’m sure that they would understand.  I’m grateful that we chose to stay the night.  We met a wonderful couple, Jeff and Judy, and got to hear their story of how they came upon to be the owner of the resort.


Jeff_and_Judy_Living_Waters_SpaTheir story began 41 years ago when Jeff and Judy first met at a Bible College in Michigan.  Jeff is a native of California and Judy is native of Chicago.  After graduating, Jeff began ministering at various churches but after four children they discovered that they were struggling to make end meets.  So they decided to move to California to be closer to Jeff’s parent and Jeff got a lucrative job at Toshiba.  However, his original calling was luring him back into ministry.  Jeff got offered to become a pastor up in Monterey County.  Since Toshiba had a wonderful insurance package, Judy decided to get the family one last final check up before they moved.

It was from that check up when their world turned upside down.  While in the middle of packing up the house, Judy got a call from her doctor to inform her that they discovered a lump in her breast.  After discussing at length with each about her diagnosis, they decided to turn down the job offer at the church and continued to work at Toshiba so that Judy can get the necessary medical treatment.  She has beaten the odd against breast cancer and now has been in remission for 22 years.

During that time, Jeff began struggling with personal issues of feeling jealous and possessive of his wife while she is receiving treatment.  It bothered him that doctors, surgeons and nurses get to see his wife body which he felt and taught that it’s a sacred temple to be only shared between a man and his wife.  So, as a man who seeks knowledge began researching how to overcome his insecurities.  It is where he came upon information about clothing optional resort as way to be comfortable with one owns body.

At first Judy was reluctant to participate in Jeff’s quest for knowledge but over time she became willing to try new things with him.  With the more places they visited the more they became comfortable with their body and the more they seek more knowledge about the body.  They learned about various types of massage and became massage therapist themselves.  During this process they stumbled upon a resort for sale in Desert Hot Springs called Kismet Lodge.  kismetlodgesign_smallAfter thinking long and hard they decided it was time to make a change in their life and purchased it 11 years ago.

Our friendships with Jeff and Judy began 5 years ago after our first ride and have grown to become like family.  Jeff even presided over our celebration of marriage and our remembrance of my late husband memorial.  Jeff and Judy have opened their door to me as a place to seek solace. It’s here where I can begin to rejuvenate again. I’m forever grateful for their warmth and love that they have shown me during the difficult times.

Just like Kathy’s story in Pie Town, Jeff and Judy’s story of experience, strength and hope gives me the courage and strength to continue my journey in finding my own two feet again.

Living Waters Spa 13340 Mountain View Rd. Desert Hot Springs, CA 92240 760-329-9988



Patience please…

In the blogging world they say you should never skip a post but I sure don’t feel like writing today.  So forgive me if my post seems out of sort.  The last 11 months have been a world wind for me with traveling a lot for work and dealing with the estate.  I have been praised so many times as to how well I have handled everything since his death.  Honestly, at times, it was just smoke and mirror.  There are times that I felt like I was falling apart.  There are times I wished that the world would stop spinning so I could get off.  There are times I wish that I could turn the clock back.

There are times that I’m so numb that all I can do is keep moving one foot in front of the other just to get through the day.  I have never been an emotional person but in the last 11 months, I’m learning that it is okay to cry but I still can’t do that in front of anyone.  This is the main reason why I kept turning down the offer to free room and board for the next 7 months before I hit the road because I need a place where I can be by myself and not worry about being strong.  Old habits are hard to break.

Remember the holidays are just around the corner and so is the year anniversary of his death.  So there may be days where I’m a little off or withdrawn, please don’t worry, I’ll be fine and will weather the storm that is ahead of me.  I just need time and space to get through the emotional storm.


Thank you for letting me unwinds here and for being patience with me.  Today is just one of those days where the compass is pointing south instead of north.  I know this too shall pass and to take it just one day at a time.

Wish List

My birthday was a couple of weeks ago and my family kept bugging me about what I wanted for my birthday.  I kept shrugging them off for a couple of reasons; one is that I don’t want or need to accumulate anything before my trip where I just have to put it storage for the year and secondly it’s still the year of the first in grief.  Therefore celebrating my birthday doesn’t feel the same without him.

My son got tired of my parents bugging him about it and since he knew that I was keeping a list of things that I still needed for the trip.  He suggested that I give this list to my parent which is a great idea.   So basically I got some of the more expensive items on the list as part of my birthday/Christmas present.

  • Butler Maps
  • BarPack Mapcase
  • Rok Straps
  • Atomic watch
  • Solar charger
  • GPS & mount
  • Therm-A-Rest UltraLite Cot
  • Heated Grips For 7/8-Inch Diameter Handlebars
  • Heated Vest Liner
  • SW-MOTECH Weatherproof On / Off Accessory
  • LED Conversion Kit
  • Electrical Connection LED Motorcycle Battery Voltage Monitor (Flush Mount Kit)
  • Denali PowerHub2 Fuse Block, Master Ground Block And Wiring Harness For Motorcycles

In this week post, I’m going to talk about one of the gift that I’m most excited about which is the Therm-A-Rest LuxuryLite UltraLite cot.  In the past, I have used air mattress of various brands but have been frustrated when it loses it oomph after awhile.  While at the Overland Expo last year, Danell Lynn recommended this cot. So when I got home from the event, I went on the computer and Google more information about the cot.  I nearly choked on my coffee when I saw the price.  At first, I thought I’ll dream about owning one of those things but I added it to my wish list anyway.

So what is a Therm-A-Rest LuxuryLite UltraLite cot?  It is an ultra light cot that only weighs 2 lbs 12 oz (1.25 kg).  It is lighter and packed smaller than any other cot that I have researched so far.  It will into a stuff bag with a dimension of 16 x 5 in/41 x 13 cm.




The cot comes in two sizes, regular and large.  The regular fit me perfectly since I’m only 5’2” tall but it was a tad bit short for my son who is 5’11” tall.  It was easy to assemble but it was a tedious process with all of the multiple pieces to put together.  I haven’t used it on a camping trip yet but I did sleep on it one night at home and it was actually very comfortable.


Hopefully it will work out well for my trip but only time will tell.


Good Vibrations


As you may remember in a previous post about my writing style it was mentioned that I am deaf which has brought up a question from time to time by fellow readers asking how did I managed to learned to when it was time to shift the gears on a motorcycle if I can’t hear the engine.

To be honest at first I was a little bit stressed out about it since the TW200 does not have a tachometer.  When I learned to drive a car with a stick shift, I relied on the tachometer as my indicator.  So how was I going to figure when it is time to shift on a motorcycle without a tach?  So we looked into finding an aftermarket tachometer to put on the bike but couldn’t find one that would work.  Then my late husband had an epiphany, looked into my eyes and then asked me how do I listen to music?  Well, at first I was little peeved at him for even asking, he should know by now the answer to that question. Then it dawned on me why he was asking me so I could be reminded.  When I go to a bar, I take out my hearing aids because it picks up too much background noise to appreciate the music.  So basically, I listen to music by feeling the vibration.  So he said I should learn how to shift the same way.

In the beginning, I rode as a pillion with my left hand on his left leg trying to feel the vibration of the bike and feeling the movement of his leg when he shifted gears.  Then we would switch roles and he would put his left hand on my left leg and when it was time to shift, he would just tap my leg to let me know that it was time to shift.  It was awkward at first but I finally got the hang of it.

So I can ride or drive any motor vehicle just like anyone else in most countries.  Believe it or not, there are 26 countries that do not allow a deaf person to acquire a driver license such as Egypt, Ukraine, Morocco and Haiti.

However, I do have to admit that if there are strange noises going on that could indicate a mechanical issue with motor vehicle, I’m at a lost there.  So I have to rely on a family member to let me know or be religious about getting the maintenance done on a timely manner.